The story goes something like this. Whenever you are at a strange, complicated impasse or find yourself facing a rapidly blinking closed sign, your mind chooses to switch off and wipes its memory clean to allow you to resurface with a fresh approach and a brand new life. We have all found ourselves at similar crossroads, when our best-laid plans have gone awry and there is nothing to do except admit defeat and begin again. Sometimes nature gifts us with an unexpected form of wipe-the-slate-clean. A new born suddenly reminds us what is really important and we shift our perspective, a clean start and we are off. Losing a job though painful shows us the potential we have in us. so and and so forth.
these forced chapter changes are liberating and amazing, but what happens when you need to do that for yourself.
we spend so much time talking about our deepest thoughts, how to move towards that elusive life goal and how to create a more accomplished, challenging, peaceful life for ourselves, but not enough discussion focuses on how to know when to stop and pull back. Who decides this is not working, this is a waste of time- who tells us we have become too bitter, too depressed, too oblivious, too delirious, too committed? When do we look around and say this is not where i want to be and walk away? Most importantly how do we do that.
‘ Accept everything about yourself – I mean everything, You are you and that is the beginning and the end – no apologies, no regrets. ‘ says Henry Kissinger.
That then is the key for me. If i always stay connected with myself, know my wants and desires well, understand what i can do with and what i cant do without, keep close to my friends for their advice sometimes is better than my own, then maybe i will be able to stop, delete and refresh. Just maybe i will be powerful enough to create a little force to start afresh, pack up the baggage, put away the work that is sapping me, throw away the key to those annoying interfering doubts, and keep reinventing myself. Changing enough to be new and exciting, but not so much that i stop being myself.
‘ Interruptions can be viewed as sources of irritation or opportunities for service, as moments lost or experience gained, as time wasted or horizons widened. They can annoy us or enrich us, get under our skin or give us a shot in the arm. Monopolize our minutes or spice our schedules, depending on our attitude toward them.‘william arthur ward.